You Might Be an Asshat if You Think Disagreeing with You = Bullying

I had no intention of writing today. I have a long to-do list that needs my attention, but I just couldn’t help myself. There are asshats who need to be addressed.

Asshats DuJour: The American “Family” Association.

Those quotes are mine–because the AFA isn’t really about Family at all. They’re about Family*.

*Family defined as only those that look, act, and believe like the Association.

*We speak for the Family that includes one Penis, one Vagina, and the offspring created “as God intended.”

Oh, AFA, it’s amazing that’s not even the reason you’re an asshat in this post today. You Might Be Are an Asshat because you say that anyone who doesn’t believe the same as you is a bully. Seriously. You think that someone who speaks up in opposition of your position is bullying you? Not true, AFA. Disagreeing is NOT bullying.

Asshat American Fam Assoc

Let’s get some background on the issue: Mississippi’s Governor recently signed a “religious freedom” law that protects business owners from having to go against their faith by serving customers who do not live up to the standards of their beliefs. You know, in the same way that Jesus made sure to shun the lepers, prostitutes and heathens who weren’t living like he was. So, basically, in Mississippi, business owners can legally discriminate against anyone who doesn’t live according to the Word. You know, those who are divorced, take the Lord’s name in vain, do any work on the Sabbath, speak ill of their parents, want anything their neighbors have, have sex outside of marriage …. ALL of those who make it so business owners are not able to “live out the dictates of their Christian faith and conscience.” Oh, wait. Nope. Just The Gays.

These Christian business owners have been feeling perfectly fine in their faith taking money from all those other sinners. These “Christian” business owners want to be able to legally deny service to their gay customers. All the rest of the sinners aren’t bothering their faith and conscience. It’s just The Gays.

Well, as far as I can tell, unless these business owners are being forced to have sex with those Gay Customers, I don’t see how serving them is any different than serving anyone else. How does talking with, taking photos of, making cakes for, serving lunch to, or playing music for gay couples compromise one’s faith? How is that different from providing those services to other “sinners”?

These “Christian” business owners who intend to invoke their religious freedoms according to this law would be out of business in a hurry if they used it in EVERY instance where they’d be serving a sinner. Maybe that’s what we should lobby: if you choose not to serve one customer because their lifestyle goes against your beliefs, you CANNOT serve any customer who engages in behavior deemed “sinful” or un-Christian. That’s fair, right?

mississippi_wedontdiscriminateHere’s the real asshat behavior: The AFA is upset that there are business owners in Mississippi who want it known they will NOT be discriminating against any customers. These businesses are displaying a sticker in their front window. AFA spokesman Buddy Smith said, “It’s not really a buying campaign, but it’s a bully campaign, and it’s being carried out by radical homosexual activists who intend to trample the freedom of Christians” to discriminate against whomever we feel isn’t up to our Christian standards. Our ability to persecute others is being persecuted and we don’t like it. OK … so I added that last part, but I know that’s what he really meant.

Here’s my message to the American “Family” Association: You don’t have to like what other people do. You don’t have to agree with it. You can base that on faith, education, bias, bigotry, or experience. And, based on the first amendment, you’re allowed to voice that opinion. But, remember, other people have that same right. We’re allowed to say we don’t want to be lumped in with bigots like you. We (business owners included) are allowed to say that we welcome EVERYONE into our homes, lives, businesses. It doesn’t mean we’re bullying you. It means we don’t agree with you. Just like you can say the “gay lifestyle” goes against your beliefs, we can say discriminating against other people (whether protected by law or not) goes against ours. You say that means we “wish to silence Christians and the church who dare to believe this truth [that homosexuality is sinful behavior].” It’s not a matter of “silencing” you, it’s just that we also have a voice … and we’re using our voice to say We Will NOT Discriminate.

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  1. says

    Crap. This raises all kinds of upset in me… I love your passion, your voice and your message.

    It reminds me of a few posts I have written on Christianity- and how Christians are giving Christ a bad name. Breaks my heart to pieces…

    If believers decided to NOT communicate (ie: business home organizations etc) with SINNERS- then who on EARTH is left?
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    • Real Life Parenting says

      I’m afraid that many people have hijacked Christianity, and unfortunately they’re the ones with the big mouths. I think until more people with Truth in their heart speak out against the politics that have engulfed the faith–it seems to be all about the Church … and not about the Spirit–this will continue. There’s a lot of cynicism about Christianity (from me included) because of the path it’s taken. I know there are good, loving, open-hearted Christians in this world … it just feels like that number is so small. It’s not unfixable … and people like you are doing good work. We just need more of it! XOXO (And thanks for your comment!!!)

    • Real Life Parenting says

      That’s something that drives me crazy. And, in this case, I feel if you’re gonna dish it out, you’ve got to be able to take it. You get what you give, AFA.

      Thanks for the comment, Lisa!

  2. says

    YES! Freedom of religion (as long as it’s MY religion). Freedom of speech (as long as I like what you are saying). I’m so sick of these people not being happy with anything. They were thrilled when the law was passed. But when people aren’t going with what they think, they have to complain about it and twist it around into something it’s not. Personally, I would only shop at places with the stickers on the door. Better yet, I’d love it if the stores who may choose to discriminate had a sign on their door saying “We are discriminating Assholes. Enter at your own risk.”
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    • Real Life Parenting says

      Absolutely! There ought to be 2 stickers out there–the one already generated and one that says Hypocrite Assholes. Perfect.

    • Real Life Parenting says

      I agree … taking longer than I have patience for. The one saving grace is that so many young people see this as a non issue–even ones being raised by these bigots. Maybe someday in the not too distant future we’ll remember this and wonder how it ever was this way. But for now, we need to keep speaking out.

    • Real Life Parenting says

      Bullying is serious–and people are trivializing it by throwing the term around. That would be like me having a pain in my side and walking around telling people I have cancer bc the ramifications and effects on me are the same.

      NO! Not. The. Same.

  3. says

    You are a very wise woman. And not at all an asshat. I had to laugh out loud (WAY out loud) at “…it’s being carried out by radical homosexual activists who intend to trample the freedom of Christians…” I wonder if they even listen to themselves sometimes. They’re idiots.
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    • Real Life Parenting says

      I had the same reaction when I read that the first time too. Seriously??? Trample the freedoms … To trample on others??? Oh lawd!

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